It occurred to me that there was one thing that really irradiated me more than anything else. To be more precise it is not really a “thing” per say but an attitude/mindset. It is extremely stubborn closed-minded people. Thankfully I’ve had the pleasure of living with people like this my entire life.
Misplaced Sense Of Superiority
A few weeks ago I was in my dorm browsing on the internet while my roommate Chris was lying down relaxing on his bed. It was pretty quiet so I decided to play some music to help kill time. Naturally I played “I Need Your Love” by Calvin Harris ft. Ellie Goulding and proceeded to sing along loudly (and beautifully).
Chris sat up about a minute later and asked, “What is this song?”
“I Need Your Love by Ellie Goulding”, I responded. The oddly confused face he made told me he had no idea who she is.
After a few more seconds he asked “Do you actually like this song?”
“Yeah” I replied ,“I wouldn’t listen to the song if I didn’t like it.” I sounded a bit rude but to be fair it was a stupid question.
He smirked and said, “Wow your gay”
I ignored him because Ellie is amazing and she needed my love. After that brief conversation and many others like it I realized my roommate was extremely closed minded. For some reason these type of people usually have a misplaced sense of superiority when it comes to things they like. So because I was listening to Ellie Goulding, an artist he has not heard of, as opposed to someone he was familiar with, like B.O.B., my music is degraded with the term “gay”. Whenever an individual calls something gay they are effectively degrading that act as something that is below them. That’s just not cool. I can respect if you do not like something because we are all different but you not need to dismiss it as inferior.
They Take The Fun Out Of EVERYTHING
That closed minded attitude quickly absorbs all the fun out of anything you enjoy doing. About 4 or 5 years ago I started watching English dubbed anime. Eventually I moved on to watching it in Japanese with subtitles and really enjoyed the shows a lot more. Excited I told my friends about it hoping they would watch too but instead I got the following responses:
“Anime? Is that those weird Japanese cartoons?”
“Yeah only nerds watch anime”
“I never watched it but it looks stupid”
“I only watch American shows”
Time and time again I tried to convince them to at least give it a chance but with no success. I was so disappointed that I didn’t even want to watch anime anymore because they had called it weird and stupid. I loved anime too much to stop watching so I continued and just keep it to myself. It is a shame that people feel that have to avoid talking their interest just because people are not open enough to listen to something foreign. Nowadays I am not ashamed to talk about my interest in anime because if someone is too closed minded to even listen that’s their lost not mine.
When someone becomes stubborn and shuts out any idea that is foreign to them they are only depriving themselves at an opportunity to gain a new perspective. Especially in a time when our world is becoming more connected and integrated with other countries it is important to be open-minded. What is even worse is you might just miss out on something you enjoy because you were afraid to step out of your comfort zone.
Would you believe that my roommate was listening to Ellie Goulding when I walked in the room last week? I simply smiled and said “ I thought that music was gay?”. It turns out he likes the music too. When you keep an open mind you just might surprise yourself.
So please don’t be a pain in the ass and try something new today, you just might like it.